Happier after Divorce?

 Posted on December 00,0000 in DuPage County divorce lawyer

Nobody gets married with the intention of getting divorced. If you are like most couples, you probably walked down the aisle with hopes and dreams of a long, happy life together, regardless of the challenges life threw at you. Unfortunately, for a great many couples, their “happily ever after” was not meant to be—at least not together. It is possible, however, for you to reclaim your life after divorce, finding levels of happiness you may have never thought possible, especially during the toughest parts of your marriage.

Freedom to Be Yourself

When you got married, you may have sacrificed some of your personal identity. Becoming fully invested in the marital relationship is not necessarily a bad thing, but when the marriage sours, it can feel like you have lost a part of yourself in the process. After you divorce, it is important to take time to figure out who you are, who you want to be, and how to get there. Grant yourself the freedom to explore new ideas and hobbies that catch your interest. You no longer need to worry about what your spouse might think. Work toward regaining your sense of self and you will quickly become accustomed to your post-divorce lifestyle.

Learn from Your Experiences

So your marriage has ended. Whatever you may be inclined to believe in a dark moment, it was not a waste of time or energy. In retrospect, it may not have been the best decision you ever made, but it is too late for that now. Your experiences shape who are you are and how you learn from them defines your character. Take the time to reflect on your marriage. Objectively recognize the good things you would like to remember, as well as the not-so-good things you want to avoid repeating. Let your marriage and divorce help you become a stronger person going forward, no matter how tough it may have been in the moment.

Stay Positive

Positivity is contagious. Try to surround yourself with supportive people who can help you focus on a happier future. It may help to frame your divorce as the gateway to new opportunities than the death knell of what might have been. Avoid dwelling on the negative aspects that broke down your marriage and focus on the fact that you have a second chance at building a happy reality for yourself. Remember, just because you are no longer married, you are not necessarily alone. With more than 800,000 divorces granted every year in the U.S., there are millions upon millions of people out there working on creating the new life they deserve.

If you have reached the point in your marriage where you believe divorce would provide a much happier reality, contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney. At the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C., we can help you escape an unhealthy, unhappy marriage and pursue a more satisfying post-divorce situation. Schedule your consultation by calling 630-409-8184 today.

Sources:

http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-fam-0113-life-after-divorce-20150106-story.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/25/life-after-divorce_n_5029684.html