Could Your Spouse Be Cheating on You?

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Divorce

While divorce experts often claim that disagreements regarding money are the most common reasons for a married couple to seek a divorce, few things can degrade a relationship as quickly as infidelity. In many cases, of course, cheating is a symptom of much deeper issues in the relationship, but the irreversible act is often what causes the most heartbreak and feelings of betrayal. These emotions can quickly lead to a breakdown of the marital relationship, pushing a couple down the path toward an eventual divorce.

A cheating spouse will normally take steps to conceal their behavior, but there will often be warning signs. If you suspect that your spouse may be having an affair, you may want to look for:

• A renewed interest in his or her hygiene and personal appearance: Has your spouse suddenly started exercising again after years of relative inactivity? Maybe he has changed the way he wears his facial hair without asking for your opinion. Perhaps she has started wearing “going-out” makeup more often than usual. Unexplained focus on personal appearance could be sign that there is someone new he or she is looking to impress;
• Sudden changes in mood or anxiety levels: Guilt over an adulterous affair can manifest itself in many ways, and it is not uncommon for a cheating spouse to lash out at his or her marital partner. He or she may even express concerns that you are being unfaithful as a defense mechanism;
• More work, same pay: A cheating spouse will often look for ways to get out of the house without arousing suspicion. Work can provide such an opportunity, but only if there has already been a pattern of expected overtime or odd hours. If your spouse suddenly has to work weekends—and never has had to before—but is not bringing home extra money, there may be other reasons for his or her absence;
• Cell phone secrets: If you and your spouse have always been open with sharing each other’s cell phone and computer passwords, a sudden change may be a sign that something is wrong. A spouse who gets nervous when you touch his or her phone is likely hiding something, especially if such behavior is new; and
• Withdrawing from you: You used to spend evenings together, enjoying dinner, taking a walk, etc., but now your spouse comes home and disappears into his or her room with minimal conversation. Your spouse may be experiencing a form of depression, or he or she may be hiding an affair and feels too guilty to remain in your presence for very long.

It is important to remember that these are merely warning signs and not evidence that your spouse is cheating. Any of them could have explanations that do not involve an affair. If, however, you suspect adultery is the problem, it may be time to have a serious conversation with your spouse regarding the future of your relationship.

Regardless of whether it was precipitated by cheating, if divorce is on the horizon for you, it is important to discuss your case with an experienced DuPage County family law attorney. We can help you understand the process and provide the guidance you need along the way. Call 630-409-8184 to schedule a confidential consultation at the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. today.

Sources:

https://www.yahoo.com/style/6-not-so-obvious-signs-i-missed-when-my-husband-104762070533.html

http://www.professional-counselling.com/your-husband-or-wife-is-cheating.html