Issues in Your Marriage That May Be Divorce Predictors

 Posted on December 00,0000 in Divorce

You can never be 100 percent certain that a marriage will end in divorce. There are so many mitigating factors that contribute to a divorce but a divorce does not happen overnight. It can take years or even decades for a marriage to degrade down and finally break, resulting in a divorce. There are certain behaviors that couples do that can be warning signs a divorce is in the future, but not all couples are created equally. What can mean trouble for one couple is perfectly normal for another. Here are a few things that could mean your marriage is on the rocks:

You and Your Spouse Are Constantly Criticizing One Another

Though it is something that we all do to everyone, criticizing your spouse should be done with care. When you criticize your spouse, you tend to criticize their personality or character, making your spouse feel like there is something inherently wrong with him or her. When you do this, you elicit a defensive response from your spouse, leaving you both unhappy.

You and Your Spouse Were Married Young -- or After Age 32

Many people know that getting married young is a risky idea -- some couples were meant to be and will last forever, but most couples will end up breaking up sooner or later. When you are young, you do not have enough life experience to know what you want. Alternatively, those who have been single for a while have an increased sense of independence and a need for space.

One Partner Thinks They Are Better Than the Other

There is a name for this -- contempt. It has been said to be “the kiss of death” to relationships because it shows a blatant lack of respect, appreciation, and kindness -- all of which are requirements for a happy and successful marriage. Examples of contempt can include name calling, eye rolling, insensitive joking, sneering and hostility.

You Do Not Communicate Effectively with One Another

Sometimes when a person does not know how to deal with something, they will withdraw from the situation to avoid conflict. This type of behavior is called stonewalling and can occur whether you leave the room or just completely shut down and ignore the situation. While this may seem like a good idea in order to calm down, it actually does more harm than good.

Discuss Your Options with a DuPage County Divorce Attorney

This list is not a comprehensive list of all warning signs for divorce, nor is it 100 percent indicative that divorce is where your marriage is heading. This list can help you examine your marriage and can hopefully help you determine whether or not a divorce is right for you and your spouse. At the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C., we understand how big of a decision a divorce is. Our knowledgeable and compassionate Aurora, IL divorce lawyers can help you determine whether or not a divorce is right for you. Call our office today at 630-409-8184 to set up a consultation.

Sources:

https://www.verywellmind.com/four-scientific-predictors-of-divorce-4045691

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a33733/surprising-predictors-of-divorce/

https://www.bustle.com/articles/178999-11-predictors-of-divorce-that-are-important-to-watch-out-for