Divorce and Blame

 Posted on December 00,0000 in Divorce

When a couple splits everyone immediately wants to know who is to blame. Surely one of the spouses or other did something so egregious that is resulted in divorce. In some cases, the couple who is splitting up feels the need to blame their partner for the divorce in order to relieve some of their own guilt.

The Blame Game

Even though most states offer the option of a no-fault divorce, blame still plays a big part in the reasons leading up to and the process of a divorce. Many times it is not even those who are seeking a divorce that place blame, as friends and family have been known to choose sides and blame the other for the end of the marriage. Some common thoughts on blame and divorce include:

• It many cases, there is no blame to place as two people eventually learn they just are not compatible and decide a divorce is the best thing for both of them.
• Some states allow a judge to take marital misconduct into consideration when awarding alimony and support, but most judges opt not to do so.
• As mentioned above, sometimes blame is assigned by those outside the marriage. This can be harmful since they don’t really know the issues that led to the divorce and can help create a vitriolic environment among the parties.
• A common reason for placing blame is out of fear of what is to come next. A person wants to believe they did everything right, and it is the other person’s fault that the future is now full of uncertainty.
• Often times one blames their own infidelity on the actions (or inactions) of the other party.

Certainly, there are valid reasons to pursue a divorce, but no one really ever wins the blame game. All blame really accomplishes is creating a distraction from one’s pursuit of healing from the emotional wounds caused by the trauma of divorce.

Rely on the Resources of a Knowledgeable DuPage County Divorce Attorney

Regardless of who is to blame, or even if no one is to blame, you deserve the best representation available when navigating the divorce process. It is important to find an Aurora divorce attorney who leaves judgement up to the court, and provides the assistance you need in pursuing a divorce. The Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C. offers clients years of experience in delivering the results you need to ensure a stress free divorce. Call our offices today at 630-409-8184 to schedule a consultation.

Sources:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-arends/the-blame-game_5_b_2809856.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/family-law-attorney/divorce-grownups/200807/some-thoughts-blame-in-divorce