Dating after Divorce

 Posted on December 00, 0000 in Life After Divorce

After going through the stress and expense of a divorce, the last thing on the mind of many adults is getting into a new relationship. However, for some divorced spouses, the desire to find a new partner is high on their list of things to do after getting out of a failed marriage. Just as no two divorces are alike, the reasons for getting into or avoiding a new relationship are just as varied.

Avoid Making the Same Mistakes

If you are intent on getting into a new relationship following your divorce, it may be important to take stock of the things that ended your marriage and strive to prevent those same issues from damaging future relationships. Other pitfalls to avoid include:

• Do not get in the habit of thinking all men (or women) are just like your ex-spouse. Sure, all men and all women share certain traits, but be honest with yourself and fair to potential suitors by giving others a chance to prove they can be a good partner.
• Avoid the “rebound” relationship. This is a result of feeling lonely and simply getting into a relationship to fill a void in your life. It’s not healthy for you and not fair to your partner. If you want a lasting relationship, be sure the other person has traits, values, and interests that you would feel good sharing for the long term.
• Let go of your baggage. Do not dwell on the past. Take stock of your own behavior and make attempts to repair those habits that may have contributed to the end of your marriage.

Signs of a Good Relationship

Here are a few things to look for in a good, post-divorce relationship:

• If applicable, the other person places the needs of their children first.
• The relationship with the ex-spouse is free of drama and discourse.
• Both partners are clear about their intentions for the new relationship.
• Signs of affection are honest and easily expressed.
• Alcohol and TV viewing ARE NOT the main sources of entertainment or escape.
• The evolution of the relationship to include a sexual component does not change the overall tone of the relationship.

Go through Your Divorce with an Experienced Aurora Divorce Attorney

The only way to ensure your rights and assets are protected as you go through divorce proceedings is to retain the counsel of a knowledgeable DuPage County divorce lawyer. From initial filings throughout negotiations and until the final divorce decree is issued, the Law Offices of Matthew M. William, P.C. provide thorough representation throughout every stage of a divorce. Contact the office to schedule a meeting today.

Sources:

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/kimberly-pryor/3-post-divorce-dating-dangers-avoid-expert

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/seven-signs-healthy-post-divorce-relationship-jmac/