4 Surprises You May Experience After Your Illinois Divorce

 Posted on May 18, 2020 in Divorce

Depending on where you are in your divorce proceedings, you may not have given much thought about what will happen after everything is said and done. The divorce process usually consumes all of your attention and energy, leaving you little to none to devote to focusing on the future. Most people who file for divorce have a general idea of how the process works, but what they do not know is what happens after everything is over. Life after divorce can be intimidating, but you should also think of it as the beginning of the rest of your life. You may be surprised at what the next chapter holds

Expect the Unexpected 

Going through a divorce under any circumstances can be life-changing, but may also be a fresh start. Here are a few things that you may not be expecting after your Illinois divorce:

• Divorce is a loss. Obviously, you know that getting a divorce involves legally separating yourself from your spouse. However, what many people do not realize is how much of an emotional loss the end of your marriage can be. You are not only terminating the legal relationship between you two, but also your emotional connection, and you may need to take time to process these feelings.

• Divorce may also be a relief. Even though you may grieve for your divorce and the loss of your marriage, getting a divorce can often be a relief. Once your divorce is finalized, it may feel like a weight is lifted off of your shoulders. This is especially true if you were unhappy or in an abusive relationship and put off the divorce for a long time

• Shared parenting time can have its perks. If you have children, it can be disappointing to have to share your parenting time with your former spouse. You may not get to see your children as often as you would like, but that also means that you now have more free time to devote to other things. You can use this time to learn a new hobby, try a new sport, or join a book club. Taking time for yourself can improve your mental and physical health.  

• You may become a better parent. Although it can be difficult to adjust to co-parenting after a divorce, you may actually end up being a more involved parent. Spending less time with your children often causes you to step up your parenting game and be fully present and engaged when you do see your kids. Since your time with them is precious, you can avoid distractions and make an effort to play a game with them or make a meal together

Contact an Oswego Divorce Attorney

Getting a divorce can be an immensely stressful process, but it does not have to be. Hiring a knowledgeable and experienced Kendall County divorce lawyer can help alleviate a lot of the disputes that may arise during your divorce. At the Law Office of Matthew M. Williams, P.C., we are here to help make your divorce experience as simple and seamless as possible. Call our office today at 630-409-8184 to set up a time to speak with our skilled legal team.

Sources:

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/silverlinings-to-divorce_n_7495296

https://bestlifeonline.com/divorce-effects/